Verklempt in the car

My wife, preggersTony, Andy and I are in the car in this episode talking about various stuff, including my stories about when Tony and Andy were born. I had a binaural mic clipped to each visor. You can hear my voice crack as I remembered a little too vividly how hard it was to watch my wife suffer through hours and hours of labor. I’m not saying it wasn’t hard on her–of course it was– but it was hard for me too. And very emotional.

Rich Pav

Richard has been living in Japan since 1990 with his wife and two teenage sons, Tony and Andy.

20 thoughts to “Verklempt in the car”

  1. I’ll answer the Mickey Mouse Club Question…
    Well i don’t watch the Disney Channel, so i had to Google for this, and I checked the official website. It appears the Mickey Mouse Club is dead. They had two revivals, one in the 70’s. then one in the 90’s, that ran from late 89 to 1995.
    Other than, it doesn’t look that it’s on anymore. So there you go.

  2. Miceky Mouse Club is dead.

    However, there is a new show geared at pre-schoolers called “Mickey Mouse Clubhouse” which is all CGI and features all the staple Disney characters.

    Oh and Rich – Hong Kong was never a country, it was a British colony – leased to Britain by China. When the lease was up it went back to being part of China.


  3. After I wrote the comment, I realized maybe you said that just to simplify for the sake of the boys, and that you probably already knew that.


  4. It always amazes me when you ask a question in English and they respond in Japanese. I guess it is easier to understand a language then it is to speak it yourself.

  5. Rich, you mentioned that you were in Hong Kong. Do you know any Cantonese? What other languages do you know (fluently)?

  6. @J-Lai: I don’t know any Cantonese, but I can figure out what’s on a Chinese menu because the characters for food are close enough to the ones they use in Japanese. I speak Spanish fluently and can sing and read in Portuguese, but not speak, write, or understand it too well.

  7. I enjoyed that, thanks! The Japanese was helpful too! Just be careful when you are driving/recording/talking/reminiscing! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  8. Your kids are great. I love how their idea of a suitable signoff to the world is fart noises ๐Ÿ™‚

    Akira117: I’m Swedish and grew up in the US, and the same thing hits me whenever I listen to an old cassette tape. My parents ask me a question in Swedish, and I automatically respond in English. I think the only time I spoke Swedish was when we needed a “secret language”, since Swedish is pretty much unknown in the US (this wouldn’t work nearly as well with English in Japan, but sometimes you wonder).

  9. that was a very touching podcast! i was getting teary eyed myself just listening

    but your mickey mouse impression was hilariously good XD

  10. i was getting teary eyed myself just listening

    And to think I totally expected someone to call me a pussy.

    Man, you should have seen when Tony was born. I cried so hard and for so long people probably thought he, my wife, the doctor and the two nurses had all died tragically and I was next. I don’t know if I was crying more because I was so happy or just as a release of all the stress I was under.

  11. The adventures of Rich Pav, staring his kids Tony and Andy!

    Keep up the good work.

    Btw one of your kids was singing towards the end of the audio, that was pure entertainment, he has a good voice! what was he singing?

  12. Btw one of your kids was singing towards the end of the audio, that was pure entertainment, he has a good voice!

    Andy the 6yr. old has an absolutely amazing voice, but he won’t sing seriously, only when he’s messing around. He also plays the piano better than I ever could.

  13. I haven’t listened to this podcast just yet, but I recently read that a japanese government official (minister of education I believe) said women are ‘birth giving machines’. He probably never experienced a baby being born then, if he thinks of giving birth as a machine-like thing.(I’ve neither but I can image it must be really exiting, but also frightening as Bill Murray says in Lost in Translation. You’ve mentioned that movie once in your podcast, I find it a really good one!)

  14. Do they use epidurals in Japan? The nurse and I watched the monitor and actually had to tell my wife to start pushing when a contraction was coming. She couldn’t feel a thing.

  15. Do they use epidurals in Japan?

    No, but I sure wish they had.

    I also learned they don’t do circumcisions either. Not being a penis expert, I just assumed that every boy gets cut. From what I’ve read, even in the US it’s becomming less common.

  16. “I recently read that a japanese government official (minister of education I believe) said women are ‘birth giving machines’.”

    He made a very bad choice in using that analogy. What he was trying to say was that the number of women of birthgiving age is limited. You can’t solve the low birthrate problem by increasing the number of women, so instead the government has to create an incentive for them to have more kids.

    The delivery part of parenthood is terrifying. You just want Mom to survive and the kid to be healthy and to have the correct number of everything and in the right place. Then for the next few years you’re burdened with the responsibility of keeping that little creature alive, healthy and stimulated. I’m generalizing, but once the kid is 3-4 it starts to become mostly fun.

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  18. I Loved this podcast. And as a recent father It really brought me back to July 12th with Technicolor(tm) detail. I loved it so much I’m going to send you some mac and cheese. ;D

    My wife tells me that there are epidurals in Japan but that they are VERY far from common. Of course she could be mistaken.


  19. very sweet, rich!! It reminded me of how my dad cried and cried when I was born just like you did when tony was born. Probably because I was a breech birth, and wasn’t expected to survive!! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Plus it was a strain on my ma.

    Your boys are adorable and very much boys. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Keep up the good work, I loved this podcast!!

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