Goodbye Flom Japan

Sometimes it’s nobody’s fault in particular, but sometimes things in life fall into place to create a big, juicy shit sammich, and sometimes you’ve got no other choice but to hold your nose and chow down. And guess what, bitching about it doesn’t improve the flavor any.

You guys are SO nice. 99.99% of you. I’ve heard from hunderds of listeners, and I’m amazed that only 2-3 of them were asshats. You’ve renewed my faith in humanity. Truth be told, my “secret happy thought” when I’m feeling down is about the really nice people I hear from.

Being sorta, kinda world famous in a weird, new, Internettish kind of way is nice. On a scale of 1 to 10, for me it’s around a “3.” I think people who put any more value into it are delusional. What really makes me happy is making others happy. Even if it’s people I don’t know from Adam, because some of those people, well, I do know them from Adam now.

It’s funny, this is my podcast but I don’t think of it in terms of me. In fact, I’m not attached to it at all. I can leave it go for a month and not miss it. That’s not good. I feel bad about it because I know there are people out there who really like it.

So look at it from my point of view. It’s like I’m in a serious relationship with someone who’s a fine human being in her own right, but I’m just not that much into her, and if I were going to feel like I loved her and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together, I would have felt that way by now. I want to end the relationship, but her entire family is soooo nice, we’ve grown attached to each other, and I have nothing against them and don’t want to hurt their feelings.

How do I solve this dilemma? Why, I crawl under a rock and disappear, of course!

It’s as if you guys are the family, and podcasting is the girlfriend I want to dump. She’s emotionally needy. She costs me money. The sex has lost its sizzle. I have other things to do, like learn how to program in Ruby on Rails. Also, there’s the thing about my wife and family not being too keen about me spending time with the mistress. Tony and Andy in particular don’t even like it when she pays attention to them. I don’t know why they feel that way, but more and more I feel like I should respect their right to privacy as much as anyone else’s.

There are other issues too that cropped up recently, but I can’t open my life up completely to total strangers. Politics, in a way. Just so you don’t think that I’m disapparing because I’m a wanted felon or I got myself into trouble with an errant discharge of reproductive fluids.

If there’s ever a new podcasting delivery service that works like a “Friends Only” Livejournal blog, maybe I’ll start shittin’ out new shows. The way it is now, I’m just too uncomfortable with being this exposed. It’s downright risky, and I’m not willing to accept the consequences. Frankly, I’m worried about going off on some stream-of-consciousness tangent that leads to me either getting fired or being turned down from some future job. (Because if my boss ever got hit by a truck, I’d be out of a job. It’s not that I’m looking to jump ship. I just want to clarify that. See how careful you have to be when you talk in public?)

Have I made myself clear? I love being able to reach out to people and finding out later that something I’ve said or done had a positive effect on someone far away. I love sharing the joy I experience as the father of two wonderful little kids. So many of you are just so, gosh-darned nice

…but I don’t enjoy podcasting. It stresses me out; not because there’s anything inherently wrong with podcasting, but because…well, let’s face it, I’m a flawed human being. (Just like you, you asshat. Yes, you. So get over it already.) It’s been fun too at times, but more and more I think we all need to move on.

By the way, I did finally figure out why people like my podcast. It became crystal clear when I discovered the miscellaneous mischievous misadventures of missbhavens. If in some alternate universe she and I lived in the same building or used the same laundrymat, I’d hope we’d become friends. See, here’s another one of those instances where you have to be really careful of what you say, or you come off sounding creepy. You can’t just say the first thing that comes to mind like, “Had I know 10 years ago that women with personalities like hers existed, I would have shopped around more before getting married.” But that’s the way things often come out when you’ve voluntarily bugged yourself like a split-personality paparazzi stalker/celebrity and you talk to yourself aloud as you walk to work alone.

Rich Pav

Richard has been living in Japan since 1990 with his wife and two teenage sons, Tony and Andy.

83 thoughts to “Goodbye Flom Japan”

  1. Rich, I think I can understand where you’re coming from.

    But, you have the courtesey to at least tell this family of listeners that you’re heading off. Not entirely crawling under a rock and disappearing, I suppose.

    Good luck and, of course, good show.

  2. That has to be the longest “it’s not you, it’s me” break-up I have ever been through. It was nice, but it still hurts.

    Miss the show … 🙁

  3. Well, its like at funerals: you never really compliment them until they’re dead. I’ve only been listening to this podcast for about 3 months, but I loved it. The sounds, the stories, the live music, the videos, it was all so normal, but the podcast made us concentrate briefly upon the normal things in life that are actually quite spectacular. I definetly don’t think I could go to the great lengths you did to record and post the podcast, so props for that, comrade. I think quitting the cast will take some stress out of your life… and agree with your decision.

    Live long and prosper.

  4. 一年間以上大変楽しいポッドキャストありがとう!!!! お疲れ様!
    Absolutely LOVED the one line you added in one of your first videocast cautiioning the oversensitive 在日カナダ人達!
    Rich Sanは色んな面で貢献しているね!がんばってちびこさんたちのため!

  5. This was truly my inspiration to see the full power of Podcasting. I used to live in Japan and all your experiences and everyday “walking to work” kind of stuff allowed me to see and hear again what it was like hanging around Hachioji and Tokyo.

    I certainly appreciate you wanting your privacy. I also understand your family’s position (they didn’t really seem to be too happy having a camera in their face when it was time to eat, shop, celebrate New Year’s, etc. anyway).

    I also believe there’s a way to compromise. Blog just about technology. There.com really was a blast. So was your experiment with Wink. These went beyond taking trips to Disneyland.

    If you revive this in any other way, let us now Rich. You’re a great guy and you shouldn’t be scared to share your stuff.

    Hope we can still meet one day. Coming over to Vancouver? Hai, dozo onagai shimasu!

    Hontoni arigato gozaimashita!
    Robert Sanzalone
    http://www.pacificIT.ca

  6. Hey Rich, totally understandable but I’m going to miss the show and the blog. You have been a big inspiration to my podcasting, you’re the one who inspired me to go into binaural soundseeing which is what I and my listeners most seem to enjoy. So thanks a lot for that. And I agree with the guy above, leave the blog open and put out the occasional there.com video type experiment every now and again… you are a talented guy! And talent gets noticed in the end and takes people to wierd places… Well, good luck with everything, you certianly made your mark while you were around the podosphere! Saludos from Madrid, Ben

  7. It seems that the previous comments (especially the second and third) managed to express everything I was thinking/feeling far better than anything I could ever muster..

    So.. I’ll just say good luck and thank you for all the wonderful shows you put out. ^^ and if you ever decide to come back.. EMAIL ME~! おねがいします。

  8. Thanks for the shows, Rich, and good luck with everything.

    I guess letter-writing campaigns don’t help when your favorite podcast is cancelled.

  9. Ah, Podcasting…she is a needy wench, isn’t she? So demanding in her passive, silent way. Your need to end your relationship with her is totally understood, not to mention elegantly and diplomatically stated…the kind of break-up where the poor girl nods and smiles, maybe tears up a bit but aggrees wholeheartedly with your brave, mature decision.

    Then, later, she may wonder “but wait, things were so good…can’t we be friends?” If Podcasting ever sneaks back into your life to resume a more casual, sporadic relationship, let her back in! We’ll all still be around, ears open.

    Good luck with all that you do from here forward, and never forget: you can always say the first thing that comes to your mind–that’s what podcasts are for, aren’t they? I’m touched & flattered, not the least bit creeped out.

    Thanks for all the great podcasts. Good luck, good luck, good luck!

  10. I guess the pressure of people watching makes you choose your words more carefully, and that in itself takes out all the fun. It goes with any medium, be it podcasting, blogging, photo galleries, chat, etc. Once you realise there is a bigger audience, you start becoming extremely self conscious of what other people want to hear/see/read.

    Anyway, thanks for the great podcasts! Good luck in the future, and hopefully you’ll still continue to blog once in a while to vent some frustration or what not 🙂

  11. After all these great comments, there’s not much more I can say. I would like to thank you for allowing me to see Japan through your eyes. I have been several times and never want to leave when I have to. Like I said, thank you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and images of Japan with us. If you ever decide to pick up the camera and the mics again, we’ll welcome you back into our homes and iPods again. Take care of yourself and your family.
    Matt

  12. It’s commendable that you made it this far with your podcasts, especially with your long commutes, work, and family obligations. I for one understand and respect your decision. It’s also comforting to know that most of your listeners were true fans hoping nothing but the best for you and your family. Many of us have got to experience Japan vicariously through you, and for that I am grateful. I hope you’ll take up something similar in the future, especially since you have so many talents. Well, even though I’ll miss your podcasts, I hope you’ll enjoy your freedom from it. Genki de ite kudasai Rich san. Sayonara!

  13. Thanks for all the great shows, and I wish you the best of luck down whatever path your future takes you!

  14. Rich,

    You are probably one of my favorite podcasters to date and still will be, because you never needed to use any cheap ways of doing things to make your podcast episodes interesting, I believe you were naturally interesting to listen to…And I know I’m not the only one who thinks thats. Enjoy life and all your great endeavors…If you ever record something just for the hell of it, we’ll be there to listen.

  15. Oh and I hope you will still keep the blog page updated, you have great articles and stories.

  16. you ruined my life ! i can not die a happy man until i saw the brutal lunch video : ) take care Rich Pav. sayonara

  17. Thanks Rich. Seriously thank you. You were an inspiration for my podcasts and in a way you were like a penpal I could not wait to hear from.

    Take care, man. I hope this is not the last time I get to read/hear you say herro but if it is it seriously was great. Sayonala Flom San Flanshisuko

  18. Hey Rich, Thanks for all the great shows you’ve put out and opening your life up to us. It was great riding along to work with you. I understand that you need to go away. But if you decide to start up again, we’ll be the first to listen.

    In the meantime, I know you listen to The Daily Breakfast from time to time. You may want to check out Fr. Roderick’s latest ‘cast. He may need hand – his superiors may yank his plug.

    So-long and thanks for all the fish,

    Trev

  19. Well i must admit that i will miss your pod and video casts i have really enjoyed them and always know that if you ever decide to start them again you will have a que a mile long of fans trailing behind you.
    SoLong and GOODLUCK!!!

  20. Thanks for all the shows rich! You were the first podcast I ever listened to, and the only the one I ever REALLY liked. I’ve been listening since the beginning, and I still have all the shows saved! Your blog is also one of the three or so websites thatI check every day. I always looked forward to the next show^^ But I understand your situation. Thank you for all the time and effort you put into the show, I hope it helped you achieve the goals that you stated a few times in the shows. It was always great to listen.

    For fans who havent yet listened to the older shows, give them a listen, they are just as good as the more recent shows!

    Take care Rich! Thank you so much for Herro Flom Japan.

  21. Rich, you were my first podcast and I’ll never forget you.

    So long mate, thanks for the interesting tidbits on Japanese life.

  22. ahhhhh i don’t care about you ! but i will really miss the shonens…this is a sad rainy day.

  23. There are a few podcasts I really like, but yours was the one I loved. *Sigh*

    But, it is understandable. You put yourself out there on long limbs a couple of times… I was even worried that you might get clobbered once or twice when approaching people on the street who didn’t get what you were doing. And the time taken away from family is too valuable to ever replace…

    So, good luck, and thanks.

  24. Hey Rich. Thank you for all the wonderful insight about life in Japan.
    I plan on living moving to Tokyo next year. Your podcast has inspired
    me. Yes, well if the podcast has become a strain on your family life I
    guess its time to leave the world of Makebelieve. Its too bad about giving up on the idea of podcasting unknown Tokyo street musicians.
    I though I was a amazing idea. God! Who I am going to listen to now?
    There are sooo many bad podcasts out there.
    Well, Thank you its been fun!

    THANKS—FOR-THE -MEMORIES!!
    LA-DA-DA-DA-DA-DA

  25. Rich,

    Thanks for the ride man. It’s been fun, and I hope that one day you can find the time and the want to podcast again.

    Good luck to you and your family.

    Sayonara

  26. its over. just like that. You inspired me. thank you.
    now i will go.

    I will miss your podcast. especially the background noise.(not a joke)

  27. Was there a conclusion about life in Japan though?

    Thanks. Take care. Bon’t jumpin’ off the cliffs in Second Life too much – it’s not good for the soul.

  28. I must say I’m really sorry that you’re stopping podcasting!
    It was very entertaining listening to your shows and I feel like I learned a lot about the life in Japan. But ofcourse, you should only make podcastst when you feel like making ’em, so I wont be mad 😛
    Thanks for all the shows man!
    greetings from Josh, Netherlands

  29. I think you will realize that you need this too.
    You will miss HerroFlom Japan.
    This Podcast is the only podcast that I listen to.
    This podcast is the diapason (pitchfork or tuning fork or crotch) of my life.
    And you are my first Idol.

    When you come back I will be here.

    From Portugal

  30. Thanks for allowing us all to eavesdrop on your life in that wonderful country.

    Sending you and your family good wishes from the other side of the world.

    -Ann

  31. So Long, and Thanks for All the Fish…..I mean the podcast. Thanks for the show. It was one of the few that I thought was worth it.

  32. I’ll miss your podcast so much! To console myself, I think i’ll archive your shows for posterity. So long Sad Sad Planet! So long Otofuke!

  33. Thanks for the podcast. I’ll surely miss it. It was something I used to look forward to. Good luck with whatever you do in your life.
    Take care!

  34. Rich, to continue your analogy: I’m like the girl in the break-up who puts on a brave face at the time and then goes home and bawles her eyes out!

    But seriously though, I feel the same as all the other people who left comments above. Your podcast was my favourite! I used to look forward to it too. I can understand that you are under a lot of pressure in your life so cannot continue as before. But maybe just once in a while?!?!

    Anyway, you probably have lots of random people wanting to grab a few beers with you, but if you fancy that in a couple of weeks when I’m in Tokyo, then you just have to shout.

    So long and good luck!

  35. Holy hell. Rich, your podcast was the first I ever listened to, and the show I enjoy the most, by far. Thanks for the great shows, the insight, and the laughs.
    I’d rather have a podcast every few months than never! Just a thought.

    David

  36. my thoughts on the matter from my weblog, sorry its so long:

    “Something I think is really strange about podcasting is that it is such a personal thing sometimes for the people that make shows and because of this you end up feeling like you know a person that hosts a show sometimes. It may sound strange but I don’t think its to hard to understand. You spend all of these secret little moments in between other parts of your own life and you sneak into this alternate existence that is someone else’s podcast, someone else’s world. You get used to seeing a new recording come up and having this person ramble on about this or that or you get used to having a chance to be somewhere different from where you are when you listen to someone talk about whatever is around them.

    You get to know the host in this strange sort of a way on a personal level because its just you listening to them talk. It’s almost like having a conversation if you let yourself look at it this way. From time to time you may remember that this is being shared with potentially hundreds of other people and you feel a little strange thinking that there are all of these other people that are listening in to this conversation but you fall right back into that personal connection you get from listening.

    So now put yourself in the podcasters shoes. You take your time, money, and effort to put these recordings together and post them for the whole world to listen to and see. You expose yourself so much by letting the world in on your life and surroundings and through something as simple as a podcast you stand there on top of the world where everyone can see and you speak of your personal opinions and experiences and sometimes your dreams or your struggles and for what? Because of the challenge? Because you are lonely and want an audience to get some things off your chest? Because you want to overcome a fear? Or maybe because you feel as though you have built a family around your ramblings. A family meaning the audience. Maybe you have discovered a way to communicate how you see the world around you to anyone who cares to listen and that gives you some sort of peace of mind. But then again, there may not be anything there at all. The existence of the show may just be there simply to exist. Who knows, only the host.

    I know this all sounds a bit over the top and all that but it’s true. Podcasting has opened up so many lives and minds in the world and in some sort of subtle way caused people to make friends they may never meet.

    Today after reading the news that Rich from Herro Flom Japan had stopped podcasting I felt like I had lost one of my friends but it was strange because in a way he is not my friend at all but merely a voice somewhere in the world speaking into empty space that I just happened upon. So then tell me, why do I feel so strangely attached to it? This is what fascinates me about podcasting and I just wanted to share it with everyone and to use this space to stand up and read my eulogy to a podcast, one of thousands of voices but one that for whatever reason, I connected with and one that I will miss as a voice speaking into the black as well as a voice that I will miss a friend. From what I have learned of Japan and its culture I can see that some of it’s tendencies have rubbed off onto Rich over the long amount of time he has lived there. It would seem that as a whole Japanese citizens are very family and self motivated and the business of others is more of an afterthought. They seem to function as a whole by having so much respect for each other. It’s amazing really and I can totally understand his viewpoint on podcasting and the reason for his quitting somewhat out of the blue. Ah well. Could be just a big elaborate april fools joke right? Right.

    P.S – All of this doesn’t come across as creepy or anything does it? It wasn’t intended to be, just observations on a cultural phenomenon.”

    1. It’s not creepy at all. I can understand the experience and the attachment when I listen to other podcasts or watch other videocasts. But the honest truth–and I know I’ve said it far too many times already…well, you know. I guess it’s kinda like the your-own-farts-don’t-smell phenomenon, but completely in reverse.

  37. Gracias for por tu generosidad, honestidad, tiempo, y todo lo compartido. Lo disfruté bastante. Te extrañaré. Los mejores deseos a tí y tu familia Rich.
    ciao… 😉
    eD

  38. Like all those before mixed feelings about seeing you going – we will miss you greatly but if it is for the best then I’m happy that you’re doing the right thing. Like many others as well yours was the first podcast out there I stumbled upon, and the only one I really really looked forward to.

    Again as others have said I think what made it most listenable was your honest, sincerity and humour.

    Thanks for sharing part of your life with us and all the very best for the future,

    Take care man!

    Richard

    The Netherlands

  39. Herro Flom Japanは私がはじめてきいたpodcastで
    そして今でもmy only podcastです
    richさんのpodcastをきいて
    えいごをべんきょうしようとおもいました

    もうきけなくなるのはかなしいけど
    ずっとおうえんしてます!

    Thank you for your wonderful podcast!

  40. Goodluck with that Rich, gonna miss the show, but all good things come to an end, Ciao

  41. Hi Rich,

    I’m sorry to hear that you’re going to stop podcasting, but I (we)
    appreciate your eloquent explanation. Your reasoning is certainly respectable, not that you owe us anything.

    Yours was one of the very first podcasts I stumbled upon, and has helped to open me up to this great new medium.

    I had been meaning to contact you about your ideas for distributing Japanese music outside of Japan. If you can think of any way that a person in the states might aid you in your plan (drop shipping?), let me know, as I would like to help out.

    Your podcasts about the things you are/were going through and how you deal with them have at times stirred some self-reflection, and for that I thank you.

    Sorry to see you go, but thank you for the enjoyable and informative peek into your life and into Japan.

    Best of luck for you and your family in the future.

  42. You gotta do what you gotta do and I certainly respect that. I guess I just wanted to add my voice to the cacophony, and say my goodbye as well.

  43. Hey Rich, I really enjoyed listening to your honest observations and self analysis. If I were you I’d be freaked by how so many “strangers” seem genuinely touched by and know personal details of your life. Maybe if you were more cryptic it would be easier to continue the hobby, but I can see how you’re not into it – especially if its messing up your relationship with your family and your job. If $ is an issue I’m sure you could coax people to donate. You have a very fresh and unique communication style – maybe you can parlay into a traditional journalism career and actually get something tangible for your efforts besides accolades in a blog. Best of luck to you.

  44. rich i listened to the other podcasts from japan and i just want to say you blew them all in the weeds ! and they have not even caught up to where you took us. i won’t be listening to them because once you had the best fu** the rest.

    1. It is not your place to say that. He worked hard on these podcasts. Just think of how hard it is to do that when you also have to go to work, take care of the kids, try to cope with sleep apnea (and the insomia that comes from it), keep the house clean(and by the way, he even spent all day cleaning so he could make a podcast about it), go to doctor appointments, and a million other things I couldn’t name if I tried. I’d like to see you try! What do you have to do? Go to school? Do homework? Deal with friends or boyfriends? Your comment shows that you are obviously a selfish little kid who cares more about the joy you get from seeing japan than a real live person struggling just to stay awake! Even when he was that tired, he still did these podcasts. You should be grateful. He was doing this as a favor to everyone including assholes like you.

      P.S. Learn to type! You’re typing is the thing that gave away your age group. I had to read it a couple of times to try to understand what you were saying and It still didn’t make sense. Go to school, borrow a grammer textbook, and read it cover to cover. Then again, an idiot like you probably already dropped out of school, or is too lazy to give a damn about it.

      That was fun. I really needed someone like you to help alleviate my bad mood today. Thank you:)

  45. I’m gonna miss your podcast, I’ve listened to all of them and watched every video. I suppose its funny, but your everyday life is so damn interesting even the seemingly boring stuff. You come across as an incredibly honest and genuine person and I have to say that although we’ve never met or had a conversation It almost feels like losing a good friend.

    Take care Rich.

  46. Hey Rich,

    I’ve missed driving into work with you. I understand what you’re saying though. You did put yourself out there and that is extremely hard. Good for YOU! I am greatful that I’ve learned a lot from you. Mostly about how you feel about people and how you cut them a lot of slack. Sometimes I find that hard to do. You have empathy and thoughtfulness in what you do and that is really cool. Be well and happy. That is what is important.

  47. Thanks for giving us a peek into your life in Japan! It was great. Best of luck in the future!

  48. Does that mean you’re going to call your sister more often now?

    Love you Bro,
    Susie(your sister)
    ps-you weren’t really adopted

  49. I loved the show. It’s too bad you have to go, but there are times when selfishness is a good thing. You’ve put all of us before yourself for so long with spitting out episodes and keeping the blog up to date. But now, it is your turn to have your time. I’ll mis the show, but I understand where you are coming from.

    Good luck with family, life, and not getting fired from your job. ^.^

    Hope everything works out for ya. 🙂

  50. Although I’ll certainly miss these cute but informative podcasts of you and your life in japan, I don’t blame you for wanting to stop. It was bound to happen sooner or later. Making them probably takes up a whole lot of time! Its too bad there are a lot of selfish people who don’t realize that. They don’t realize what a kind and generous favor you’re giving them. You weren’t doing it for yourself, you were doing it for them and I dispise all the people who are going to(or probably already did) leave a whole bunch of comments trying to force you to keep this favor up. By keeping these up for so long, even when you’ve been feeling dull and stressed out, shows an awful lot of kindness in my opinion. So ありがとうございます。I’m grateful that I got to see you’re kids, house, all other cool things about japan.

    P.S. I’m the person who gave you that tattoo comment on youtube under the house tour. すみません。 It was stupid to say that. I was having one of those “duh…..” days if you know what I mean(and I don’t mean I was sleepy). Plus my friends are goofballs. I was hanging out with them for a while and some of it rubs off on me for a little while. That still isn’t an excuse though. Also, sorry about this long, sappy, run-on comment ^^’

  51. If you are going to stop podcasting why not take the site down with you ? Is this a pity party now ? I am crying now.

  52. Thanks for the great soundscapes. The Pachinko parlour was mind blowing but the best was the frogs. A while after you posted that one, I heard the same thing from the frogs at our cottage (Ontario, Canada). Half a world away, same sounds, small planet.

    Thanks again and good luck.

  53. Pav thanks for the podcast, for turning me on to binaural recording and hours of fun in general. I just learned about the end by checking the website, since I remembered nothing showed up in iTunes for a long time. Would be nice to send a short final goodbye down the rss pipe for those that still wait for new stuff and don’t read the blog.

  54. Sad to see you hang it up.. I really enjoyed your stuff.. But I empathize 100%..

    You do what you need and want to do.. You’ve given enough of yourself to others; we respect you for giving to us, but also for saving some for you. 😉

    GJ

  55. Wow! A lot of great comments and its been awhile since I came to this site. I thought the podcasts were super! I see what you mean about leaving podcasting behind. See ya around.

    BC

  56. Its a shame you gotta go. You had golden nuggets of information for us all. It still would be nice if every once in awhile you would say something…not necessarily video…just a peep every now and then. That would be cool. say la vi…you’ll be missed.

  57. *sigh* SOO depressing. i finally got my computer fixed and the second site i HAVE to go to is herroflomjapan.com –but it is nomore 🙁 well, to be honest i always wondered how your wife felt about having her children’s faces plastered on the internet. but still- this stings- a lot….i don’t know if i can keep up this relationship anymore….even if you did teach me that uvula in japanese is penis of the throat…..*tear*….goodbye herro…and goodnight 🙁

    best of luck in everything you do!

  58. The thing I liked most about your work was the rawness of it. It was life, both the good and the bad. You achieved something artistic and phenomenal. Your podcast in a way allowed me to experience things I never have, and I think I am a better person from what I have learned through you. Thanks. I will most definately miss hearing from you. I hope you have a wonderful life.

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